Gerry's Mother

Guy's, I want to thank each and every one of you for your nice comments concerning my loss. My Mom was battling a terminal condition involving a hole between the two sides of her heart. She was too old to be a candidate for repair surgery. As some of you may remember, several years ago I built a new house so that my wife and I could take care of her in her final days. She was dead set against a retirement home, as were my wife and myself. She was equally against dying in a hospital, so, with the help of Hospice, she died at home with her family close by. My wife was her daily companion and best friend for many years. She is taking the loss particularly hard. Hopefully the healing process for the family will start soon, and things will get back to somewhat normal again. Thank you for all your prayers. She is in a far better place now.

Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family in this difficult time.

Been thinking about you, Gerry.

We're all thinking of you, Gerry. Hopefully, the healing can begin soon.

A tough loss....you are in my prayers.

You and your family will continue to be in our thoughts and prayers. My grandfather lived with us in his final days. I can relate to what you're going through. Your wife, like my mom and mother in law, will, for a time, not know what to do with themselves since she had a job to do each day that she's suddenly lost.

Gerry my condolences on the loss of your Mom. If I could add, we're all in the same line and the way your family handled the care of your Mom was commendable. We should all be so lucky when our time comes.

Thinking about you Gerry, especially since I am currently caring for my mom who has advanced Alzheimers. It is sometimes difficult to keep yourself centered, both during the terminal stages of the illness of a loved one and after the loss. Thoughts of peace being sent your way.

The feelings of loss will never go away, remember the good times and the pain will subside.
What you and Jackie did for your Mom is what we would all hope to be able to do for each of our parents. It’s a good son that can take care of his parent when the end comes. I admire you and Jackie for that. You could not have done anything better for your Mother.

Our thought's are with you both...


Cheers,

Gerry, the noblest thing a man can do is care for his parents and grant their final wishes. I commend you for being a great son and husband - may you and your wife move on knowing your mother is in a better place.

What a blessing for your Mom to have had a full life and for you and your wife to be there for her so she could do things on her terms. My thoughts are with you.

Gerry,
My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family.

Rich

Gerry,
Take some comfort in telling the story of your mom, and how you cared for her. It provides a living example for others to follow.
Bruce

You are to be commended for taking such extraordinary care of your mother. Janet and I will say a prayer for you and yours...

You have been in my thoughts for the past few days. I know what you are going through and, although it gets better, I don't think the void is ever really filled.

My mum died 16 years ago and still there is hardly a day goes by that I don't think about her. In the end, we are all our mother's "little boys", and we miss the comfort of the knowledge that, in her eyes at least, we can do no wrong!

Gerry you said it all with your message. The hubby and my prayers are still with you and your wife

My prayers are with you and your family Gerry. Remember the good times and the things that brought you joy & happiness about your Mother. That can be hard to do as our parents age and all we see is the slow inevitable slide.
She raised a good man.

Gerry, our thoughts are with you both, very sorry to hear about your loss.

rgds,

Henk Jan

Gerry,

Over the past 14 years, I've lost my oldest brother, my Dad and then my Mother. My wife and I took care of my mother in her final days with the help of Hospice. A wonderful organization. I wouldn't have had it any other way. The one thing that has helped us deal with these loses more than anything else is to talk about them often. Sometimes friends and others seem to be reluctant and want to avoid talking about the departed but believe me it is easy and helps alot. Hope this will be of some comfort in a small way.

Your friend - Dennis

Words are never enough in situations like this. My prayers go with you. I believe that families are forever.

I am so sorry for your loss.

David
Hobietrax

Gerry,
Please accept my deepest sympathy. I'm very sorry for your loss. You will be in my prayers also.
Respectfully,

JP

Sorry Gerry, I hadn't seen any of this. I hope you get past the worst of loosing your mother quicker than I did.

I learned of your loss while attending the N.O. Show Gerry.
You and Jackie did a great thing by assisting your mother with her wishes.
I've let the other members of the EMC know of your loss.

You have been, are and will continue to be in our thoughts and prayers.

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss Gerry. I lost my best friend back in 1976 due to the same condition. He was too weak and frail to operate on. Almost five years ago my son was born with the same condition. Two open heart surgeries later the doctors were able to fix the problem. If we didn't have modern medical technology and good insurance we might be without our son today. I know that the wife and I don't take life for granted anymore. You and your wife will always have those great memories of your mother. Sounds like she was a great lady!

Shawn

Gerry, I am terribly sorry for your loss. Thank God for hospice; and thank God for your wonderful wife. Our hearts are with you.

B-racer Wrote:

Gerry
I am terrible sorry for your loss. You and your wife did a wonderful thing caring for your mother and I sure she appreciated more than you will ever know..
Gary

Gerry,
My deepest sympathies for your loss. My wife has been a hospice nurse for the last 17 years and she says she is always amazed at the sacrifice care givers do for their loved ones...they are the heroes. I lost my dad and several friends to terminal illness and it was nice to have them pass in the comfort of their own homes surounded by their loved ones. My hats off to you and your wife, you are both very special people.

Very sorry to hear about the passing of you Mom, Gerry, but very impressed that you did the right thing of caring for her right to the end. You'll always know you did what was best--and she knows it, too.

I lost my Dad when I was 3 and my Mom when I was 7. I am now 58 and I can assure you the void is permanent. As it should be. When I hear stories of folks takin care of their parents it just makes me feel good. Gerry, you and your wife are very good people. The world could do with a few more like you.

Mick M.

I'm very sorry to hear about your loss Gerry. You and your wife will be in my prayers also.

Norm

Gerry,

It is so very hard to deal with even though you know the condition is terminal. It sounds like she sure had a good family that cared for her to the end.

My condolences to you and yours.

Paul

Gerry, may you and your family realize the extreme beauty of God's graces as your mother is most surely in his presence and she will now be able to keep a watchful eye over such a caring family until which time that you will all be reunited. Please accept my deepest sympathies in your loss.
Jim Barker

Gerry, just want to add my condolences as well. Your family is in our thoughts and prayers.

Gerry,

I'm sorry for your loss, please accept my condolences.

Steve

Our thoughts and prayers are out to you and your family. In the past three years I lost my mother-in-law, mother and oldest brother two months apart and my nephew at 42..killed under a car. The hurt never goes away...but neither do all the good memories.

Hey Gerry, we have never met but I feel like I know you through this community board we participate in. I am sorry for your loss. You and your wife did a wonderful job taking care of your mom at the end.

I know what you are going through and my dad's situation is what got me involved with this board and the wonderful MG community. My dad is in a nursing home, his health is poor and he prays to go "home' every day. and about 15 months ago I started restoring his (now mine) 69 MGB. I prayed that I would get it completed in time to take him for a ride. I even took an entire month off from work when I first got it back from the paint shop. Two weeks ago, I got to take my dad for that ride and it was really really neat. He can't see much any more but he knew his baby. I walked him around the car in his chair and he felt the car, touching things like body seams, fog lights wire wheels and everything else. It is a memory I will always treasure.

Take care.

Gerry, I'm very sorry for your loss!

Don

Gerry...

A mother's love is irreplaceable. The beauty of our cars is that they give us open window to look up and see whoever we want to see in the sky above.

To Gerry's mom, Godspeed on your journey and along the way, wink at your son to let him know that you're cool.

Gerry, so sorry. I lost my mom 7 years ago and I wish I had something to say that would help. The only thing i can say is that I believe we will all be together again. I'd give ya a man hug if I could. - Dave

Gerry Very sorry to hear about your mother passing on,and thats just what she did ,passed on to a MUCH better place![Like my mom did last year] My wife and I are praying for you and your family to have peace.When you look at her picture SMILE.......Don Suleski

Bless you and yours Gerry.
When Grandpa Jim passed it was an honor to be at his bedside in his room. It somehow made the last year and half's struggles and effort worth it. Having been a witness to his passing makes his memory even sweeter.
Paul

Gerry so sorry to hear of your loss. Hopefully for you and your wife the healing process will begin.

Gerry sorry for your loss. I know what it is like to stay by a parent until the end, you did a good thing, and that will bring comfort for many years to come.